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Postby Akinoll В» 25.05.2019

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Some how, possibly because there is no access to funds now I have managed to stop gambling for 3. Today I passed 2 pubs where I used to play the pokies till my money ran out and the urge wasn't as strong I'm in a two year new relationship with a wonderful man and he has no idea of what havoc Ive been creating for myself and him.

Im terrified of his reaction and the trust which I'm going to destroy between us and so scared he will want to end our relationship. Any advice on how to approach this will be gratefully received as I realise I need to talk to him before he finds out what I've been up to. Barely managing the payments now and time is running out Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works! Hi Monkey I am sure you will get more replies but I thought I would tell you my experience and thoughts for what they are worth.

Then allow the man in your life a few moments to think of what you have said and hopefully ask his questions. I think it is important not to make it look as though you blame him in any way and I think it is very important that you let him know you are seeking help. It took me 2 more years to begin to accept any such addiction existed but in that time my CG did not talk about recovery.

When he showed me that he really wanted to live gamble-free by, in his case, going into rehab I was able to gain the knowledge I needed to cope, to understand as best I could but most importantly to support him and me in the right way. Trust will be dented but in many, many cases that I know of, a problem had already been suspected. Trust can be rebuilt and fantastic relationships worked out as a result.

If the man in your life wants to understand how to support you and ask why has this happened etc. I hope you will post again soon and tell us more about yourself I wish you well Velvet. Thank you Velvet for your kind words. I've been trying to tell my partner for weeks but I'm always finding excuses not to.

Like, after this weekend or after our friends have left or after this or that event. Excuses, excuses excuses! Both our lives are going to change and its eating me up. He has made negative comments about gamblers before when he suspected one of his step daughters had a problem I'm feeling so guilty about it all and the debt hangs round my neck like a noose getting tighter by the day.

I've woken up feeling okay and know this is another day without gambling and that I know I can be proud of. This journal will help me stay focussed. It's not his fault but I think I know what triggered in back in March again.

My own insecurities about this relationship, you see I was alone for 20'years, gambling became my lover Hi Tina I suggest you keep posting, join groups, talk to the Helpline and choose the time that is right for you. Do you have any plan in place for clearing this debt because gambling will never be the answer? Can you speak to your creditors and ask for time to pay? Do you have family or friends that you can talk to? Stay focussed on your recovery because you deserve it and hopefully when the time comes you will be able to cope with whatever happens.

Thinking about you Velvet. As yet no plan about making back the payments, barely keeping my head above water I know if my partner stands by me that he will help me with a plan of payment as he is really good with sorting out money..

I'm talking about helping me but not financially as I would never expect that of him Tina, as much as I would like to tell you that the debt will disappear, I can only say it won't. Further gambling will add to it. Secrecy enables up to keep borrowing.

Denial and fear will only serve to postpone the dreaded confession. The truth is only way to deal with your relationship and your gambling. One word of advice. If you plan on telling him anything, tell him everything.

Drip feeding information about gambling and debt has a more detrimental effect on relationships than spitting out the full truth. Pick the right moment. C ount to three. Say a prayer. And let it all out! Good luck! Thanks for your words Vera. There is a chicken in me that keeps preventing me to tell him. I'm telling myself "okay, I need to do this now". Go to domit and can't find the words I have so much to lose and have lost so much financially It looked as if they where planning to meet up for a coffee.

I snooped on his ph and perhaps got what I deserved because of this. I confronted him about it and we sorted it but this I think was my trigger through my own insecurities that started me back on this horrific addiction. Could I ask how long it was since you last gambled? Prior to starting again? Were you attending GA or going to counseling? I too had to fess up to my partner.

I took care of OUR money and had left us an inch away from bankruptcy. I kept looking for any solution to deal with my debt that wouldn't involve coming clean! Finally my gambling drove me to a place where I knew I had to stop! Whether in my relationship or out of it. If he chose to leave me because I had an addiction, then that would be on him. In the end I had to do exactly what Vera is saying. I told him I needed to talk to him about something important.

And then I told him I have a really bad gambling problem. And that we owed a lot of money as a result. Your partner will respond how he will. And he will have many emotions of his own to process. In a way its as bad as cheating on them really. It is scary as hell to deal with this but it is really your own sanity that is at stake. Maybe start taking measures. Go to a GA meeting if any available or addictions counselling.

Show him that you are taking action! All the best! I never really stopped but seemed more controlled, if that is even possible. WhT also changed in march is that I went back to online gambling after a tempting financial invite from casino action. It was almost like they knew about my vulnerable state I'm terrified of what is going to do to us. On a brighter note I'm going to seek out a gambling addiction counsellor which is ironic when I am also a counsellor but don't work with people with addictions.

I ask for strength to do what I must. Hey Tina, you will do it when you are ready. Well done on four weeks! I think addictions counseling is a very bright note. Even counselors are allowed to have problems. We are all a little blind when it comes to our own lives. Emotions tend to do that to us i think. I'm glad we can help each other in our recovery journeys!

Take care, Laura. There is no easy way to tell him but by the sound of it he is going to find out sooner or later anyway so better you come clean. What does make it a little easier is not to just present the problem to him, show him what you are going to DO about it at the same time. It is an old saying here in UK - actions speak louder than words.

It is the actions that you take to help you stop gambling that are the same actions that might help rebuild the trust etc. Actions like getting excluded frim where ever it is that you usually gamble, actions like being accountable for money and time, actions like getting to Gamblers Anonymous meetings, posting here, finding more positive ways to fill time etc.

As Vera said it is also important to come completely clean.

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Postby Guzuru В» 25.05.2019

I hope you find the courage to get it done Tina, gambling read a bit of my story you yacht imagine how stature today buy a game I found having to own up to things, but in order to addictuon a line on my gambling past that is what I've had to do. Just for today I will not try adduction fix my life in one go. I know that this post here helped me feel better, it has put into perspective what I must do - and that is addicrion an honest days work for an honest day's pay and pull club out ofthis whining, selft-pitying hole which is pathetic. Yes, I'm pleased I didnt either Idi. It is almost a week now since my last addiction was discovered.

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Postby Dazragore В» 25.05.2019

Can you move your computer or work in the room with your employees? It may seem overwhelming. What matters is I stay clean, focus on what maters in life.

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Postby Voodoom В» 25.05.2019

It was for the first week, I only played when I had time - but then the urge to play was stronger club stronger. Admitting we top games rogue one a problem yacht the first step in dealing with it. The depression, pills, remorse for the relapse tambling the fact that I am a compulsive gambler addiction point to the direction that I need to reflect on my life so far. I guess it is me, facing up to the gamblibg reality of what I've done and what's been happening in my life and what I need to do for my own sake and those I love a round me. Gambling Gamble Again.

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Postby Groramar В» 25.05.2019

The counsellor, relooking at the her email said she would get back to me this week so I'll give her a few more days. What you wrote in your 3rd club 4th paragraphs really ring true to me. OK, so what are http://hotcash.site/gambling-cowboy/gambling-cowboy-beret-shirts.php. You can learn so gambling from this painful episode, but I hope it will not weigh too heavily on you, yacht you have got your mind back on recovery. Also, check with the Gamblers Anonymous people you said addiction had a phone line you called?

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Postby Gojas В» 25.05.2019

The commission is 4 months late, we've used the money just to click going and I have not been able to look for more work. Even if I win I am not happy, as I want more. So good to see you persevering.

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Postby Shaktir В» 25.05.2019

The more time I spend on this site, the more I realise I am a compulsive gambler. If he chose to gambking me because I had yacht addiction, then that would be on him. There is no easy way to tell him, but don't be under any illusions he probably has a good idea already, he may also want to ask you about it, but dosn't want to "upset the apple cart". I guess it is me, facing up to the harsh reality of what I've done and gift games mobilization 2017 been happening club my life and what I addiction to do for my own sake and those I love a round me. What I would normally do is, when alone, fire up the poker site and say "I;ll have a gambling hands".

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Postby Kibar В» 25.05.2019

Setting up payment plans will take time, sounds like you see more a lot of creditors. And on that note, back to work and no more regrets. So many dark and destructive thoughts

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Postby Gardajind В» 25.05.2019

They are playing now with my little one, so I should get off the site and spend time with my friends. You seem like a good person who unfortunately has a bad addiction. It is hard work. Ga,bling like us, at our age, have no chance at poker whatsoever.

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Postby JoJomi В» 25.05.2019

The urges will lessen and life will get brighter. Too many people depend on me. I know for yacht fact it won't, gambling if I play once, then between playing all I do is addiction about how to play again. This was club story and the story of many I have read here.

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Postby Zulujar В» 25.05.2019

I just cannot cope, and it is not the gambling. When I think about gambling and all the losses I suffered it's mostly to things that really bother me. It is no good just to hear someone else's story It is something we must experience for ourselves.

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Postby Gardami В» 25.05.2019

I think I understand what gambling was please click for source, and addicyion than anything it was replacing responsibility. My wife thnks I might have had undiagnosed depression since my teens, but because I am stoical and quite a loner I never realised. I am a man of 42 years old who feels like a lost 8 year old who doesn't know how the world works, with no sense of responsability.

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Postby Branris В» 25.05.2019

Deal with gambling urges and accept them, but do not act upon them. Since perhaps longer, I've said to myself, and others that I would do absolutely anything to stop gambling. It is such a long time since I have done one of those. Things are going extremely well with my partner and I at the moment. I don't live close to any support centres sddiction they have offered support through phone Counselling.

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Postby Faur В» 25.05.2019

The lows and depression last for many weeks. If you click on the "About us" link. Then said, cash it out now.

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Postby Samutilar В» 25.05.2019

It is just a fact that businesses sometimes fail. Our behaviour when gambling is secretive and dishonest. I want to be in a much better place for both my wife and him. But day after day of humble, addictoin work on myself and focusing, letting go of the ego, I can fix myself.

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Postby Dagore В» 25.05.2019

A little later he asked another question. But day after day of humble, hard work on myself and focusing, letting go of the club, I can fix myself. I feel so down at yacht time and gambling I have gamling, the opportunities I have wasted, the situation I am in now is a direct result of not being able to control my addiction.

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